I’ve been wanting to talk about this subject for a while now, but I had to wait a little for my anger and frustration to cool off. I knew that if I didn’t wait to cool down, my post may have been full of profanity!!
It was an early morning before work a few weeks ago. I went out for a quick run and the temperature was already pretty warm and the humidity was high and climbing. So, I naturally opted for the most comfortable outfit for the run, my usual running shorts and a sports bra. I was only running 3 miles and in that short distance and early time of day, I had to deal with at least 4 men cat-calling and honking their car horns at me. Seriously?! One man even had the gall to yell out his car window as he drove past saying, “keep sweating baby!” It’s 2016 and we are dealing with this nonsense still?!
As it is, women everywhere are self-conscious about their bodies and the way they look. They aren’t thin enough, their thighs touch, their boobs aren’t big enough and so on. There are women who walk around covering themselves up out of shame, discomfort and fear of being laughed at. I am of the school of thought that is, be happy with the body you have but if you aren’t healthy and want to work to change that then……go for it!! But, I’m also not going to bash a woman or mother with a few extra pounds or stretch marks for wearing a bikini at the beach. Wear whatever you want, if it makes you feel good about yourself, then wear it. I was one of those women who was very self-concious and worried about what people were thinking when they saw my body. It took some time, but it got to the point where it didn’t matter to me anymore. If I want to wear a bikini, I will! If I want to run in my sports bra because it’s too stinking hot outside, I will!
So, now, we go from fear of being out in public and being scrutinized for our bodies to a fear of going out in public and being treated like a piece of meat. Some may say, geez that barely happens anymore, that’s not really a problem. I beg to differ. Get a few of your girlfriends together and start asking questions and situations like that will begin to come up. I came across an article the other day (No Woman Ever) on BuzzFeed regarding a woman posting on Twitter regarding a man attempting to ‘catch her attention’ at CVS. She was trying to make light of an uncomfortable situation and other women began to respond using the hastag, #NoWomanEver . The hashtag became bigger than what she expected and the author ends with this:
If nothing else, #NoWomanEver has shown women once again that they are not alone when it comes to experiencing street harassment.
Going back to where I started, lol 🙂 I am running NOT for your pleasure and enjoyment. I am out there running in my shorts and sports bra for……ME. Not for the men driving past or sneaking peeks out their windows like creepers. I’m getting up early and running for my health and my happiness. I am not on parade for you. So, I would strongly encourage you to keep your damn hands off your horn, inside the car and shut your mouth!!