Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle.
No matter what stage of life you are in, that reminder is always relevant. Whether you are a teen struggling through adolescence or middle aged and fighting your way through the rut of the everyday, it’s helpful to remind yourself of that. There are going to be people out there that don’t respect you, are unkind, unhappy or are just plain bullies. But, for everyone of those types of people you can find just as many kind-hearted, supportive, caring friends. It’s hard to believe that when you are in the middle of the storm, but giving yourself the opportunity to step back, take a breath and to look around, you will find the people in your life that are truly your friends.
As I have mentioned in past posts (Never stop learning; Divorce sure is pretty…), divorce is definitely one of those situations that tests your resolve and the strength of your friendships. Divorce isn’t an easy process for anyone. The discomfort and stress can spread not only throughout the couple, but to their friends/family as well. Some friends/family may feel the pressure to “pick a side” between the two of you, or possibly you or your ex try to pressure friends/family to pick a side……..bad idea! 😉 Naturally, we want people on our side, but do you really want someone by your side purely by guilt or fear?? Definitely not worth it…..at least in my opinion! 🙂
There are going to be people out there that are insecure, unhappy with themselves and lack self-confidence. In their misplaced search to find happiness, they seek out people to tear down in order to make themselves feel better. It is difficult dealing with those types of people. I have had to deal with my fair share of people like that in my past as well as presently. There are many things I would like to say and do, but I focus on stepping back, taking a breath and being the bigger person. If they want to stand there and tear you down, insult you, talk about you……..let them! Be the bigger, stronger woman/man and smile, wave and ask them how their day was. The age old adage of kill them with kindness is the perfect approach. Don’t allow them to bring you down to their level of insults and ugly behavior, because deep down, you know you are worth more than that.
You are worth it, no mater what anyone says and no matter how you feel. You deserve happiness, success, and joy. If there are people around you that don’t agree, then you simply don’t need them in your life. Surround yourself with positive people that build you up, inspire you, support you and help you become a better version of yourself. There is too much negativity and unhappiness in the world, add more SPARKLE!! 🙂