Self-doubt – lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities
Self-doubt can be a powerful thing. It can stop you in your tracks and keep you from achieving your goals, finding happiness and experiencing success. Many people deal with self-doubt on a daily basis. One of those people may be you. I, personally, have battled with it for almost as long as I can remember. In my journey through adulthood, divorce, motherhood, etc. I’ve come to learn a few things about self-doubt and thought I would share them with you today. 🙂 I hope that these ideas/thoughts may help to open doors within yourself that have been barricaded by self-doubt.
- Self-doubt can be a powerful thing……..only if you let it. Once those thoughts begin to creep into your mind, STOP THEM! Yes, much easier said than done, I know! 😉 As soon as you begin to notice those thoughts and feelings surfacing, stop….talk to yourself (out loud if you have to) and tell yourself to stop that destructive cycle of negative talk.
- Remind yourself of your achievements and your abilities. Sometimes when I am having a hard time acknowledging my worth or capabilities, I will write a list of things I have completed successfully. Initially, it is difficult, especially when you are stuck in that self-doubt mindset. Give yourself some time and as you continue to write and think, it will become easier.
- Get yourself a boost of optimism. Whether it is a friend of yours that is always wearing rose-colored glasses, a pick me up from your mom, or a movie that makes you laugh and has an inspirational plot line. Give yourself the boost that reminds you the glass is half full.
- Talk about it…..write about it…..get it OUT!! Whatever negative thoughts and feelings are plaguing you, get them out of your head. Often, all you really need is to let those thoughts escape, and what could be better than literally letting them all out? For years I avoided writing/journaling about my thoughts and feelings because, at times, it was too difficult or painful. But, the more I pushed myself past my comfort zone, the more insight I gained into myself, my needs, my strengths and my weaknesses.
- Recognize and teach yourself that because you have failed, does not mean you are a FAILURE!! We are human. We make mistakes and we are all far from perfect. You are going to make the wrong decisions, you are not going to get that PR you were hoping for or whatever it may be. That in no way means you are no good. It simply means that you have some areas to still work on or perhaps (in running in particular) you were just having an “off” day. Everyone has an “off” day and that’s okay.
- Just as you should recognize your strengths, it is important to recognize your weaknesses. Now, I’m not saying, dwell on them and then tear yourself down because you are not strong in that area….NO! What I’m saying is, acknowledge where you need to work and then DO the work. An example from me is the fact that I spent years chasing the 2 hour half marathon mark and just wasn’t getting there. I knew part of the reason I wasn’t getting there was because I wasn’t training right. I just ran. I didn’t focus on speed or teach myself about pacing. I went out there and got my miles in. That isn’t bad or wrong, but if you truly have a specific goal in mind and what you have been doing isn’t working then obviously things need to change!! That’s exactly what I did. I signed up for the Fleet Feet Half Marathon training program. My training took a whole new direction and within months I reached my goal and more!! Hence the quote:
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.
As I said previously, these are just some of the ways that I have found beneficial in fighting that pain in the butt…self-doubt. Hopefully, these ideas get you thinking about methods you can use for yourself if you ever find yourself in that rut. 🙂 Take care y’all and talk again soon!! 🙂